ALL THE FAILS - DAVID SULLIVAN
DAVID FAILS AT SLEEPING WITH JENNY. HE ALSO FAILS AT OTHER THINGS.
I’ve spent my whole life looking for a coach, somebody to champion me through my career highs and lows, somebody to tell me to get back up and try again. I luckily have that voice within me, but it’s always been my fantasy to have it come from outside.
I don’t know that I was ever searching for a Momager or a parent so enmeshed with my success that I was responsible for their livelihood or happiness. But I would have liked someone who understood what I did and saw where I needed to go.
I met David before I was doing much writing. I was screen testing all the time as an actress, but not getting any of the jobs I wanted. Jason was in and out, but when it came to work, he was pretty detached.
This isn’t to knock him. I’m married to a child actor who never took an acting class in his life. I don’t think he was trying to hurt me with his aloofness around my work, but he was use to keeping his two lives separate. He was also hiding a drinking problem so becoming my Bela Karoli was a bit more than he could handle at the time.
Jason has championed me in so many ways, but at this point in time, and around this particular subject, we struggled.
While I’ve always been a big Richard Bach fan, I think it’s unreasonable to assume that your partner has keys to fit your every lock. My husband has a lot of the qualities I desire in a partner, but I have certain needs that are in direct conflict with his. And I’ve learned (with therapy) that it is unfair to expect your significant other to always be able to put their shit aside because you need healing around a particular subject.
David and I met at Lesley Kahn Acting Studio and became fast friends. He never came on to me once. LITERALLY. NEVER. I think this boundary in many ways is why we were able to get so close.
Having him in my life, healed something. He instilled me with new level of confidence that I did not have. There were moments where had he not believed in me, I would have stopped believing in myself. At least for a week or two.
I relied on him not just as a friend, but as a lighthouse- a beacon to guide me.
David rejoiced in my every success, he raged with me over my defeats and he screamed like a banshee for me to stick every landing.
I wept in his arms when I saw him last week as though we were reuniting at the finish line of The Boston Marathon.
David isn’t just an insanely talented actor, he is also one of the most generous actors I’ve ever met. Our friendship changed me. And I am so grateful.
This interview is so great that I had to move it up in my lineup.
I never do “trigger warnings” on Instagram, but I do want to warn you that there is some sensitive material in this one. So please proceed with caution.
x
Jenny